Last Updated on 4 months The Four Agreements book is written by Don Miguel Ruiz on Toltec wisdom and how it affects us. This book has four agreements we have to make it our self and follow them.
If you are a voracious book reader, I am sure author Tony Robbins has a strong glimpse of your mind. In this Book— The Four Agreements, the author talking about the belief system and old but strong agreements we have made with ourselves unknowingly.
The core concept of this book is to not take things personally and the importance of a belief system. Because of the book of Tony Robbins known as Awaken Giant Within, we learn very deeply about the belief system and how to change the belief system easily.
This book stayed New York Times bestseller for more than a decade, and this author has written several successful books including The Mastery of Love, The Voice of Love, and Prayers. He has also collaborated with his son, Don Jose Ruiz, to write The Fifth Agreement, which is another New York Times bestseller.
My Favorite Quote Of The Book
The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don’t accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don’t accept others the way they are.
Core Of the Book
- The outside dream has so many rules that when a new human is born, we hook the child’s attention and introduce these rules into his or her mind. The outside dream uses Mom and Dad, the schools, and religion to teach us how to dream.
- Language is the code for understanding and communication between humans. Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement.
- When we went against the rules we were punished; when we went along with the rules we got a reward.
- There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame. It is the part of us that says, “Poor me, I’m not good enough, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not attractive enough, I’m not worthy of love, poor me.” The big Judge agrees and says, “Yes, you are not good enough.” And this is all based on a belief system that we never chose to believe.
- Just as the government has a book of laws that rule the society’s dream, our belief system is the Book of Laws that rules our personal dream.
- True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.z
What Are The Four Agreements
1. Be Impeccable with your word.
Core: Stop hurting yourself with your words. Impeccable is a Latin word that means “Without sin”. First, Be aware of your internal language means not judging or blaming yourself.
Having the worst thoughts of yourself means you’re sinning against yourself. You need to change those thoughts, and start telling yourself how great you actually are.
One edge is the misuse of the word, which creates a living hell. The other edge is the impeccability of the word, which will only create beauty, love, and heaven on earth.
Your worst word is the rejection of yourself, and that the biggest sin you make every single day. Why we compromise and reject our self every time?
Don’t take the wrong and worst judgments and opinions of yourself personally. They are not passing judgments and opinions about yourself whether they are talking about themselves. They called ugly and dirty themselves.
It is up to you to make this agreement with yourself: I am impeccable with my word. Nurture this seed, and as it grows in your mind, it will generate more seeds of love to replace the seeds of fear. This first agreement will change the kind of seeds your mind is fertile for.Be impeccable with your word. This is the first agreement that you should make if you want to be free if you want to be happy if you want to transcend the level of existence that is hell. It is very powerful. Use the word in the correct way. Use… Click To Tweet
2. Don’t take anything personally.
Core: You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, the poison goes through you, and you are trapped in the dream of hell. What causes you to be trapped in what we call personal importance. Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me.”
Humans agree to help each other suffer. If you have the need to be abused, you will find it easy to be abused by others. Likewise, if you are with people who need to suffer, something in you makes you abuse them. It is as if they have a note on their back that says, “Please kick me.”Stop taking things personally. They are talking about themselves. They rejecting themselves. Things that actually help us and boost our self-esteem easily, take those things personally. Click To Tweet
3. Don’t Make Assumptions.
Core: If you don’t understand something, it is better for you to ask and be clear, instead of making an assumption.
We all are not engineers. Am I right? Engineers are really those people who need to make assumptions about the process. But we are not engineers then why we are making big assumptions.We create a lot of emotional poison just by making assumptions and taking it personally because usually, we start gossiping about our assumptions. Remember, gossiping is the way we communicate with each other in the dream of hell and transfer the… Click To Tweet
The big mitote in the human mind creates a lot of chaos which causes us to misinterpret everything and misunderstand everything. We only see what we want to see, and hear what we want to hear. We don’t perceive things the way they are. We have the habit of dreaming with no basis in reality. We literally dream things up in our imaginations.
4. Always Do Your Best
Core: Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good. When you wake up refreshed and energized in the morning, your best will be better than when you are tired at night. Your best will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick, or sober as opposed to drunk. Your best will depend on whether you are feeling wonderful and happy, or upset, angry, or jealous.
You were born with the right to be happy. You were born with the right to love, to enjoy, and to share your love. You are alive, so take your life and enjoy it. Don’t resist life passing through you, because that is God passing through you. Just your existence proves the existence of God. Your existence proves the existence of life and energy.